How to Reset Your Life: Practical Steps for Career, Money, and Personal Growth

Introduction

The speaker admits that giving advice feels uncomfortable because it’s rarely asked for, but feels compelled to help those who think their life needs a "reset." The advice is framed as a flexible skeleton that applies to anyone, regardless of gender, age, or specific goals.

Understanding the Need for a Reset

• People often feel stuck in a "bottomless pit" – exhausted, unmotivated, and unable to act.
• The feeling isn’t just discomfort; it’s a loss of inspiration and a desire to press a mental "reset" button.
• Recognizing this state is the first step toward change.

Step 1: Design a "Reset Day"

1. Pick a concrete day – treat it as non‑negotiable, regardless of external factors.
2. Write a detailed plan on paper:
3. Clean your room.
4. Pay overdue fines.
5. Make that dreaded phone call.
6. Complete any small tasks you usually avoid.
7. Execute the plan – this day should push you beyond your usual minimum effort.
8. Reflect in the evening – review what you accomplished and how it felt.

Step 2: Visualize Your Ideal Self

• After the reset day, sit down with pen, paper, and images.
• Imagine the character you want to become:
• Personality traits.
• Daily habits.
• Lifestyle details (e.g., living in Spain, drinking sangria in Marbella).
• Draw or write this vision in vivid detail and start feeling as if you already are that person.

Step 3: Prioritize Money and Career

• Money is the foundation – not the ultimate goal, but the lever that unlocks other freedoms.
• Create a financial inventory:
• Set a target income per month or per day.
• Identify realistic ways to reach it (content creation, crypto, investing, sales, negotiation).
• Overcome cultural fear of selling; view negotiation as a skill that expands self‑esteem.
• Treat earning as a growth exercise, not just a means to an end.

Step 4: Overcome Fear and Build Skills

• Identify personal fears and limiting patterns that block action.
• Practice focused work: e.g., stay 6 hours on a single task to prove you can sustain concentration.
• Surprise yourself by doing things you thought were impossible; this boosts self‑esteem.

Step 5: Manage Isolation and Trauma

• Isolation can be useful in two phases:
• Silencing external noise – let inner voices surface.
• Processing trauma – recognize the voice (e.g., a parent’s criticism) and consciously choose a new internal narrative.
• The goal is to replace old, harmful scripts with your own priorities.

Step 6: Build a Powerful Routine

1. Morning – wake early, use the cortisol spike for high‑impact activities (exercise, learning, content creation).
2. Evening – review the day, visualize goals, read or listen to educational material.
3. Social exposure – join groups, classes (Jiu‑Jitsu, language courses), and deliberately act as the confident version of yourself.
4. Continuous progress – focus on small, measurable steps; progress compounds over weeks and months.

Step 7: Choose the Right Resources

• Books:
• The Miracle Morning (routine building)
• The Psychology of Money (mindset around wealth)
• Jim Rohn’s The Puzzle of Life (relationships)
• Evolutionary psychology titles on love and behavior
• Podcasts & Videos – consume content that aligns with your current focus (money, health, social skills).
• Practical tools – track habits, set financial goals, schedule networking events.

Adapting to Your Current Phase

• Priorities shift:
• If money is the bottleneck, allocate most time to income‑generating activities.
• When relationships become the focus, say yes to podcasts, events, and community gatherings.
• Avoid over‑planning; trust that the universe will align when you act from a clear intention.

Final Thoughts

The reset is not a magical switch but a series of deliberate actions: a reset day, vivid self‑visualization, financial focus, skill‑building, and a disciplined routine. By committing to these steps and adjusting priorities as you evolve, you can move from feeling stuck to creating measurable progress.

Start with a concrete "reset day" that forces you to act beyond your comfort zone, then build a routine that prioritizes earning, skill development, and vivid self‑visualization. Consistent small wins will rewire your mindset, unlock financial freedom, and set the foundation for lasting personal transformation.